So you want to reach people for God? That’s incredible and I am so happy that you are interested in leading people into an incredible eternity. Chances are you have a friend or family member that you want to see have a relationship with God. The fact is, you love them too much to not say anything about your faith.
But what happens if they say no?
Ouch. That is painful. Now in reality most people will simply say “No Thank You” most are not mean about it but they are simply not interested right now. Essentially its like telling the vacuum salesman “Thanks but I like my own ” (I did that job for a while)
How are we supposed to handle that?
First you have to understand that matters of eternity and belief are not easy to change. They may be saying “Not right now” instead of saying “Over my dead body”.
Remember first that you should have a relationship with this person that is not contingent on them changing. If a friend says no, still be their friend! Don’t think that they have rejected you completely. Instead remain in contact with them and continue to show them through your life that what you have is actually worth something.
Take time and evaluate what you said and how they reacted.
Maybe you need to adjust your approach. Invite them to an event where other Christians will be. Let them begin to see what they could have. Maybe you came on too strong and need to just chill out.
But what if they got hostile towards you? What if they not only wanted nothing to do with what you had to say but began to criticize you for your beliefs? How do we handle that level of rejection?
Jesus gave us a couple of things to do in those situations. First in Matthew 7:6 he says “Do not give dogs what is holy, and do not throw your pearls before pigs, lest they trample them underfoot and turn to attack you.” Then again he tells his disciples in Matthew 10:5-15 to shake the dust off their feet when they leave and judgement will come upon them.
Do not give dogs what is holy – Jesus
Now that seems a little harsh. But what he is saying makes perfect sense. When you are talking to someone about Christ you are trying to prevent them from going to hell. You are offering them an incredible gift. Realize that this gift is precious and you don’t want them to destroy that gift for you.
In other words, if they turn on you and respond in a hateful way towards you then back off. Allow God to deal with them. Continue to pray for them but don’t give them the opportunity to destroy that precious gift that you have been given.
Again the vast majority of time people will be very gracious about you telling them about faith.
Don’t be discouraged if you feel rejected. Ask God to help you and continue trying to make a difference in the lives of the people around you. God will not let your efforts go unrewarded, and you never know just what God can do when you aren’t watching. Sometimes you plant a seed and God will make it grow.